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Great essay. My wife sent it to me after I just published my own essay on lifting your kids (and the physicality that comes with parenting, and how dads get it easy!)

https://www.thenewfatherhood.org/p/lets-get-physical

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Thanks, Kevin. I love that your wife sent it to you and some serious parallel thinking about the weight stuff. I am sure it has something to do with our older kids approaching nine - I mean, how?! And thanks for introducing me to "mommy thumb", that's a new one for me! Really enjoyed you essay as well.

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I know?!? Our eldest agreed to a request of mine a long time ago: that she was allowed to get to 10, and then she had to stop getting older

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You’ve made so many important points in this post. I’ve never thought about how the “repetitive stress” of caregiving is barely acknowledged. Although I’ve felt it--I too have suffered chronic hip and low back pain since my second pregnancy (for me physical therapy daily to strengthen muscles of the hip and low back are helping, I hope you find some relief too).

And gosh the article that buries the lede of caregivers not needing to change anything. That is just a perfect example of how media deals with parenting (and everything) these days, or always? I loved the many different ways you pulled the weight metaphors through these piece.

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Thank you so much for reading and your thoughtful comments! Sometimes, it all just spills out and I am just thrilled when there is a coherent thread. Glad to hear your hip and low back are getting better. Thanks again for taking the time to read & comment.

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